Cougars...love 'em or...

Time to blast the myths...Cougars are smart, savvy, confident women that are not ruled by a number - they are sure of who they are and not afraid to go where no one has gone before. Gone are the days where an older woman with a younger man is considered desperate, or a sugar mama. Cougars are the new 40ish woman that knows what she wants and isn't going to worry about what someone else thinks about her going out and getting it.

Times are changing and the older woman/younger man relationship is the hottest ticket out there. For so long it was socially unacceptable, although it makes much more sense since women don't need a "little blue pill" to keep up with their partner...lucky us!!! But trust us - being a cougar is so much more than that - although there is nothing wrong with "that", is there???

It's me, Dori, the only one of the Three Wise Girls that is not married, and the one that hit both demographics. I am in my 40's, single and the older I am the younger the men asking me out. I also look over the other side of the fence as the mother of 2 20-something sons that are very mature for their age who have always attracted older girls, and someday, older women.

So, here I sit, gazing at both sides. As a "cougar" I must confess that I wasn't attracted to young guys when I was young myself. I am attracted to confidence and maturing and that air of confidence that usually comes with age. I did have one experience a few years ago with someone 14 years younger than me and we were just in different places, he was looking to settle down and start a family and, while I do want to find someone to share that part of my life with, he would have only been Mr. Right-now for me, and that wasn't enough for either one of us.

I have always tried not to judge others I would like to think that I would be cool if my sons came home with on of my "peers" as their date, but I can't be sure. I can only hope that if and when it does one day happen, she is someone who will share the benefits of her experience and be gentle and not break his heart. (Anyone out there remember "Tea and Sympathy?) My friend Tina once said to me that if one of my sons liked older women that she wanted to throw her hat in the ring. She also promised that she would teach him so well that the women who came after her would be putting flowers on her grave in thanks!

All kidding aside, men have had that Hollywood "Mrs. Robinson" fantasy for a long time, because it was the one place that it has always been in vogue to see younger men with older women. Finally the rest of the world is catching up, and cougars are the new "It" Girl.

So, with all that said, are you a smart, sexy woman that finds that they are attracting younger men that see you for the amazing catch that you are, or perhaps you are the mom of one of the younger men that are mature enough to capture a cougars attention. Whatever side of the fence you are on...come talk with us about it. The Three Wise Girls want to blast myths, share our experiences and hear all about yours. Tune in to our Blog Talk Radio Show - http://www.blogtalkradio.com/ThreeWiseGirls every Thursday at 12pm EST - or email us at threewisegirls@gmail.com. Join us as we share our views and learn about yours.