Friday, August 21, 2009

Morality-Integrity-Family


I visited one of my favorite social groups this morning. One post stood out. This member was sadly sharing the news of, yet another, innocent bystander in critical condition after being shot in a drive-by shooting. This young 13 year-old girl was riding her bicycle, and just happened to be riding by when the shooting occurred. The member asked within her post, and I quote, "Why is it that we have gotten to the point where life seems to be just so unimportant? Are we as a people so selfish and self centered that we don't even consider the consequences of our actions?". End of quote.

So many thoughts ran through my mind and I responded with just a few of my thoughts. Another member commented on my response, and suggested that I blog my response. And so, we have my blog entry for today.

I think our situation today is due to many factors. I believe it has to do with the fact that we are literally hanging ourselves with the interpretation of our rights, both God given and constitutionally given. Here is only a few examples of where I'm coming from.

I love the right to freedom of speech but abhor the violence, language ... and overall messages being delivered in movies, songs, TV & video games. I love our religious freedoms, but I am furious that in our celebration of everyone's belief and ideology, many of us are now not allowed to pray in schools or business meetings. It's now politically correct to say "holiday tree" instead of "Christmas tree".

In respecting others views on marriage, divorce and sexuality, we have become a nation where it is accepted as normal that 50% of mariages will fail ... and do ...(2007 statistics-http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/nvss/mardiv_tables.htm). It's common place for men to have fathered children with several women, with no regard to the welfare of the children. And, in fairness, many women have that same attitude.

There is so much more to this equation, and stay tune ... I'll probably will be sharing my opinion on the other factors very soon, as is my nature.

I just think we need to step back and take a look at where we are and where we had rather be, and then start joining forces to make this a better world. Notice I didn't say go back to a better time. There were times that were simpler with no media or technology, but those weren't necessarily better times for individuals. Obviously the 60's were times of turmoil ... and so it goes.

No, I think that "better times" should start today. And it starts with some good old fashion standards of morality, integrity and family.

Wednesday, August 19, 2009

The Power of Twitter!


I am completely amazed at the power of Twitter. The spectrum of people that you find tweeting back and forth is remarkable. Believe me, when Theresa - S1's Director of Finance - asked me if I was on twitter - I knew what a powerful tool this really is. If you knew Theresa and her lack of web-based marketing knowledge, you would understand. Needless to say, she was very happy to see that I am happily tweeting away.


Through my tweeting I have connected with amazing "tweeple" from all walks of life - and enjoy sharing information with them daily. My internet was down for a few days a week or so ago and twitter was what I missed the most. Part of the time I was able to use my Blackberry to tweet - but then the router also went out - so I was up cheese creek without a cracker!

As wonderful as twitter is - the most amazing result has been the "birth" of Three Wise Girls - @DebbieBarth @lindaalexander and me - @Dori_S1_Bags - these are our twitter names so please connect with us there and follow along.

We will be coming to BlogTalkRadio this October and hope to share with you our experiences as women growing businesses, writing books, raising a family and all the special challenges that it entails.

That's all for now...just keep tuning in...tweeting along and once we hit the airwaves...listening in. We are Three Wise Girls who are ready to take the world by storm...

Sunday, August 16, 2009




You've heard it every where else, and you are going to hear it here as well. Michael Vick is now "flying with the Eagles" To say that "feathers are being ruffled" is an understatement.

I'm still not convinced that he is sorry for the hideous criminal acts he committed or just sorry that he got caught and had to pay a price for it. So far, the only atonement I've seen has been court-ordered atonement. And, I'm not so sure the humble words tumbling out of his mouth are coming from his heart, or from a carefully scripted speech drawn up by his lawyers.

His case and the annoucement of his conditional reinstatement is now being compared by some with the Donte Stallworth incident. Donte is a wide-receiver for the Cleveland Browns. He has recently been placed on a one year suspension by the NFL for his part in a DUI vehicle manslaughter case. Donte will also be spending 30 days in jail, last I heard. There are those who feel that Vick is being treated unfairly in comparison with the light sentence that Stallworth received. I whole-heartedly agree that Stallworth got off incredibly easy. I understand that Stallworth took a life due to his drinking and driving. I think the laws should be a heck of lot tougher. However, to say what Donte did is worse because it is a human and that a dog's life is less important frosts my butt! Yep, I said the "butt" word.

In my opinion, animals are beautiful creatures sent from God. Dogs at least are said to have the mental capacity for understanding words of a two-year old child. Given the right loving home, they are warm, caring and nurturing animals. They are living beings, just as we are. The big difference is that they are trusting animals who depend on us for their safety and well-being and give so much back in return.

My thoughts are this. Stallworth did intend on going out and drinking that night. He did intend on drinking and partying all night. And, he did intend on driving home without any reservations. And, he's probably done the very same thing numerous times. However, I don't believe that he also intended to take a life that last fateful night. Again, just for the record, I absolutely think that the light sentence he got was ludicrious.

My point is this. Michael Vick knew of ... and according to official court documents ... did take part in the torture of animals on his property which included the hanging of dogs, the drowning of dogs, and the electrocution of dogs. This wasn't one time ... but time and time again! He intended for these actions to talk place over and over again. This wasn't a one-time bad decision with consequences he would regret later. This was a repeated horrendous criminal act.

Now, admittedly, I am not the most forgiving person on the earth. But I do know that time will tell the real Michael Vick story and, at the end of the day, the real Michael Vick will step forward. I will also admit that he will not have an easy time of it and that there are people out there that will scrutinize everything he does. One false move, could mean jail time again. And let's face it, the Eagles are not doing this out of love...they are doing it out of greed. If the new Vick doesn't perform on the football field like the old Vick, he will not be around publicly for us to judge, one way or another.

Wednesday, August 12, 2009

Are YOU A Wise Girl?!





If you were a Wise Girl ... what is it you'd like to talk about? What wouldn't you like to talk about?

And--as they say in Louisiana--fer true, ARE you a Wise Girl? What do you think a Wise Girl is? Is it smarts? Or is it smart-aleckyness? Or, maybe it's truly both, eh?

Debbie, Dori, & I, Linda, as the pseudo-original Three Wise Girls would like to interact with others of similar smarts & smart-aleckyness. You may be a brain surgeon . . . or just play one on TV . . . either way, we'd love to hear from you. Tell us your name, what you do for a living, why you embrace your business & your family. Tell us exactly what's important to you as a Wise Girl. And explain how you embrace YOUR Wise Girl-itude.

We're building a list of Wise Girls to join in with us as guests on our Blot Talk Radio show beginning this fall. Tell us about you!

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

Networking Or Land of the Living Dead?



A network is defined (Merriam-Webster) as a usually informally interconnected group or association of persons (as friends or professional colleagues). People join networks in order to share common interests, ie hobbies, music, books, etc. Online professionals join networks to interact with other online professionals, share experiences, wisdom, and most of all... let's be honest.... to get the word out about them, their products/services and to create sales/make money. A zombie is defined (Merriam-Webster) as a person held to resemble the so-called walking dead. There is more than one definition found in credible dictionaries, but this one suits the purpose of this article perfectly. I, like many online business professionals, belong to several online marketing networks. I actually do my research and attempt to join only those marketing networks with the same core beliefs and standards and whose members are serious online business entrepreneurs and professionals. I then go in and set up my profile information, attach my picture, and hang up my shingles....ok.... add my website links.

By now my readers are wondering what the connection is between the two above, and where could I possibly be going. And thus, the following... It takes but only a couple of days to realize that I am, once again, in a land with the "living dead". Don't get me wrong, I absolutely love the networks, and the staff, of which I am a member. Nor am I referring to most of the esteemed members.

This writer simply has her own opinion of what networking is (or should be) all about. For example, I love it when other members drop by my profile page and leave a comment/sign my guestbook. I mean a real comment, like "hi, I'm from Texas, too. Dropped by your website and I think that we have real networking opportunities.......". Something along those lines. Often, however, someone will drop off an online card or cute graphic, and simply say "hi". Quite frankly, I feel the same amount of emotion about that as I do when I go to my mail box and find a little plastic "thing-a-ma-jiggy" (with an advertisement inside) attached and dangling in the wind. Or say, that piece of paper just under your windshield wiper that you don't notice until you are actually driving down the road.

I also enjoy getting "friends requests", and being asked to join their groups, etc. However, I always wonder WHY after I discover that they haven't visited my websites, googled me, or really read my profile.

I mean, how do they REALLY know that I am not a Porn Queen (imagine inviting one to your group and having her do an impromptu presentation for your group), or some whacko who slips out of his room at night and logs into the mental hospital's computer. Hopefully, now I have your attention and will attempt to connect the two above definitions. You don't have to join 100 networks to be successful, either. Again, do your research and pick just a few of the ones that are most compatible to you, your business, as well as your core belief and standards for doing business.

Why, because being a successful networking member requires participation from YOU. If you spread yourself too thin, then you are wasting your time setting up your profile, etc. It takes setting aside some time to read the bulletins, forum post/group posts.....and responding. If the staff of the group asks for your participation in group meetings, etc., try to be there. Bottom line, make your presence known.....even better....define your presence. How do you define your presence? Simply by using the blogs (if your network provides you with one), posting to the forums, going to online meetings and letting the other members hear your comments and suggestions. Some networks will also allow you to do a presentation of your products and services. By all means, take advantage of it.

Now, back to some of my earlier comments. When you are browsing the network and dropping by different profiles, get to know the other member. After all, reading the profile should take less than a minute. And here is the biggie....take the time to visit their website. Yep, it does take time and it may or may not be something that you are interested in, but how do you know if you don't stop by? After all, why did YOU put up the links to your website on your profile page?
Keep in mind that most webmasters have the necessary tools in their back offices and knows who dropped by their website and even when. This writer has to believe that most people appreciate members who take the time to visit their website and are more likely to actually click on the corresponding website as well.

This writer believes that when we join networks for marketing purposes, the networking part isn't really about YOU as much as it is THEM. And this writer believes that there are two kinds of networkers; those who actively participate and takes an interest in the other members, and those who move in a zombie-like state, moving from one profile page to another, requesting friends, leaving cards, sending advertisements in messages....just going from one profile to another.

This writer also believes that there are more of the former, rather than the latter......thank goodness. And as for me, I prefer my zombies in a glass with lots of ice.
This is an article that wrote for Ezinearticles.com last year and felt that it had a place here as well. Are you a networker, or you a zombie!
http://ezinearticles.com/?expert=Debbie_Barth

Sunday, August 9, 2009

Three Wise Girls Blog is ready to rocknroll!


We are the Three Wise Girls. We are Dori DeCarlo, Linda Alexander, and Debbie Barth. We are as different as peanut butter, tuna fish and key lime pie. But together, we make quite a dish. Look for our new show The Wise Girls, going live on Blog Talk Radio in October of 2009. Look for lots of changes on this blog as there is bound to be creative differences.... and we are strong women.

One thing that will be consistent on this blog is change. In order for you to stay informed, you will need to drop in often. Be prepared to learn something new, laugh, cry, become indignant, or just be plain bored. We are not responsible for your frame of mind upon entering or leaving. We take no responsibility for our comments what-so-ever, get over it, it is just who we are.

However, we are all three going through some form of menopause, whether pre, full bloom, or post; and, are subject to intense sensitivity when people drop by and fail to comment.

Remember, your relatives may not care what you have to say, but we do.

Stay tuned folks....there is more to come

Debbie Barth-Wise Girl